"I Don't Every Time Get What I Want"
I am :: ftm : pre-op : poly :: and a fanboy. My blog's a mix of personal, my billions of fandoms, and transition related stuff.
A+ Televison: The Fosters
The official synopsis of this series is, “a multi-ethnic family mix of foster, adopted, and biological kids are being raised by two moms.” Choice of word is important and it most certainly gives an impression. The fact that “two moms” was used instead of “lesbians” or “gay couple” is so goddamn important and tells you so much about the focus of this series. Their sexual orientations are detached from the premise of the show because it’s being said that hey, this is a norm. Two moms can be a norm just as much as two dads or a mother and father can be.Most often you see the children of gay and lesbian couples being bullied, the parents coming to the rescue and having to explain to them that they will face these prejudices. Yet you have the opposite of that here. These children know who their parents are, they understand that there’ll be prejudice, and they don’t need to accept anything because there isn’t anything to accept; these are their mothers and that’s just as plain as saying the sky is blue.
And god, is that ever so refreshing to see.
I watched the Pilot, and it was awesome. A show about an interracial, lesbian couple. Their children are a mixture of biological (from one of the mom’s previous marriage) adopted (latino twins) and now a foster girl. One of the moms is vice principal at a charter school, meaning a gay woman of color is a fucking vice principal fuck yeah. When the ex-husband of one of the moms made a sexist comment, it was addressed as a sexist comment and called out. Also, while the other mom is a cop, which is perceived as “masculine,” she is also rather feminine, showing that women can be both feminine AND strong. Both women are fairly feminine, destroying the “all lesbians are butch” stereotype. Oh and hey look they hug and kiss and basically there’s screen time of them showing affection and it’s not like “ew gross.” It also mentions that the new foster girl’s little brother was caught wearing a dress and hey no one freaked out about it (well I mean except for his foster dad). Just watch the damn show.
And this is all coming from a person who can’t watch Modern Family or basically any tv show ever because of how racist and sexist and classist and homophobic and transphobic they are.
I am a horrible human being
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10 YA Novels with Asian American Main Characters
Nothing But the Truth (and a few white lies) by Justina Chen (Little, Brown, 2007)
Bitter Melon by Cara Chow (Egmont, 2010)
Born Confused by Tanuja Desai Hidier (Scholastic, 2002)
My Most Excellent Year by Steve Kluger (Dial, 2008)
Beacon Hill Boys by Ken Mochizuki (Scholastic, 2004)
Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell (St. Martin’s Griffin, 2013)
Orchards by Holly Thompson (Delacorte, 2011)
Name Me Nobody by Lois-Ann Yamanaka (Hyperion, 1999)
Level Up by Gene Luen Yang, art by Thiem Pham (First Second, 2011)
Girls for Breakfast by David Yoo (Delacorte, 2005)
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if your friend has an avoidant personality, or anxiety, or something that makes it really difficult for them to (literally) drag themself out of their bed, out of their room, to see you
don’t take them for granted
because chances are, the entire time they spent getting to…
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Why do dogs go mental when they see another dog
I imagine that in their heads they’re like
THAT IS DOG
I AM DOG
DOG DOG DOG DOG DOG DOG
i do this with queer people in unfamiliar environments
THAT IS QUEER
I AM QUEER
QUEER QUEER QUEER QUEER QUEER QUEER
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Genderbend Aladdin
No one can understand my internal turmoil over whether male!Jasmine should have the earrings or not.
Something tells me this would have been a much better story.
Dale Spender, an Australian feminist who has been a strong advocate of female rights in this area, noted that teachers who tried to restore the balance by deliberately ‘favouring’ the girls were astounded to find that despite their efforts they continued to devote more time to the boys in their classrooms. Another study reported that a male science teacher who managed to create an atmosphere in which girls and boys contributed more equally to discussion felt that he was devoting 90 per cent of his attention to the girls. And so did his male pupils. They complained vociferously that the girls were getting too much talking time.
In other public contexts, too, such as seminars and debates, when women and men are deliberately given an equal amount of the highly valued talking time, there is often a perception that they are getting more than their fair share. Dale Spender explains this as follows:
The talkativeness of women has been gauged in comparison not with men but with silence. Women have not been judged on the grounds of whether they talk more than men, but of whether they talk more than silent women.
In other words, if women talk at all, this may be perceived as ‘too much’ by men who expect them to provide a silent, decorative background in many social contexts. This may sound outrageous, but think about how you react when precocious children dominate the talk at an adult party. As women begin to make inroads into formerly ‘male’ domains such as business and professional contexts, we should not be surprised to find that their contributions are not always perceived positively or even accurately."
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As a teacher, I give girls what I hope is a lot of attention. I don’t know if I give girls their fair share, but I aspire to, especially after noticing that boys are willing to use their greater share of teachers’ attention to get girls who they feel aren’t being quiet and docile enough punished. I have therefore acquired a reputation for “caring more about the girls.” This has had two marked results: Some straight boys have gotten more hostile toward me, and most girls have gotten more confident around me. This makes me think I’m doing something right.
Longer thoughts on how this phenomenon relates to sexual harassment in classrooms, if you’re interested: The girls figured out I won’t report them if they hit boys who are sexually harassing them, I’ll only report the boys. This led to an increase in how often girls got the last word and boys got smacked in my classes, and, also, to a DECREASE IN HOW OFTEN GIRLS GOT SEXUALLY HARASSED. The sexual harassers seem to have been depending on the sort of “equal blame” and “retaliation is never warranted” and “don’t hurt others’ feelings” perspectives so many schools try to instill in kids; the sexual harassers were usually the ones bringing me into the situation by saying, “Miss, she hit me! You should write her up!” Once they figured out I was only ever going to respond, “If you don’t treat girls like that, they won’t hit you,” the girls got more confident and the sexual harassers largely shut the fuck up.
In schools, fighting against sexual harassment is often punished exactly the same as, or more severely than, sexual harassment — a lot of discipline codes make no distinction between violence and violence in self-defence, and violence is ALWAYS the highest level of disciplinary infraction, whereas verbal sexual harassment rarely is. Sexual harassers, at least in the schools I’ve been in, rely heavily on GETTING GIRLS IN TROUBLE WITH HIGHER AUTHORITIES as a strategy of harassment — creating an external punishment that penalises girls for and therefore discourages girls from fighting back. Sexual harassers are willing to use their greater share of floorspace to ask to get girls who won’t date them punished. By and large, teachers do punish those girls when they swear or hit. Schools condition girls to ignore sexual harassment by punishing them when they speak up or fight back instead.
Once the sexual harassers in my classes understood that girls wouldn’t be punished for rejecting them, they backed off around me. And there started to be a flip in what conversations I get called into — girls are telling me when boys are being nasty (too loud and dominant), instead of boys telling me when girls are being uncooperative (louder and more dominant than boys think they should be).
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reblogging again for the wonderful commentary.
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Hi Fandoms,
My name is Rosie. I’m 22. I grew up in Texas, about an hour south of Austin. I’m the oldest of 4 children; the child of teachers; on my way to be a teacher as well.
I’m a fan of Sci-Fi and Fantasy, of anime and manga, of magical girls and pirates. I’m a fanfic writer and reader, a con-goer and a casual cosplayer. I’m a nerd girl and a feminist.
I like Star Trek and blueberry muffins and really sweet tea mixed with lemonade and cowboy boots and my pet snake and playing N64 games.
And I’m bisexual.
In a lot of ways, my bisexuality is one of the least important things about who I am as a person. In other ways it is incredibly important. Being a bisexual woman changes the way the world treats me, the way our society treats me, and, sadly, it changes the way that fandoms and nerd culture and the media treats me.
And let me just say this: Fandoms, you really suck sometimes.
Before you click that read more, know this: I don’t speak for all LGBTQ+ fans. I speak only for myself, but this is as honest as I really know how to be, and I think that it’s something that should be said.
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queer hogwats kids making buttons w/ preferred pronouns on them that are charmed to yell when ppl use the wrong ones
everything i never knew i needed
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